Importance of Aftercare Programs – By Eric Patterson, MSCP, NCC, LPC

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Addiction is a complex, demanding, and frustrating condition, but effective treatment can help to improve the lives of people who struggle with it. When treatment options are extensively available and tailored to the needs of the individual, better results are possible.

Sadly, the vast majority of people who need specialized substance abuse treatment do not receive it. According to a report by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), only about 11% of people who needed treatment for substance abuse received it.

If you are one of the 2.5 million people that have already sought out treatment or successfully completed your initial level of care in the last year, congratulations. Taking the first step towards treatment for an addiction to alcohol or other drugs is a monumental step that many people never take. But there is more work to do.

Addiction treatment is not a process that ends after detoxification (detox) or an initial rehabilitation (rehab) program. Taking measures to live a drug-free lifestyle is a long-term commitment. This process can include a wide variety of treatment options and supports. As part of the continuum of treatment, addiction rehab aftercare is an important part of overall recovery.

About Addiction Aftercare
”AftercareMany individuals first embark upon their substance abuse treatment journey with a period of professionally supervised detox. Depending on the substances abused and the recommendations of a treatment professional, this first-line measure may require medically-assisted detox. Whether or not medications are involved, all formal detox protocols are conducted to allow for the safe, comfortable clearance of substances and their toxic influence from the systems of people in early recovery from drug or alcohol addiction.

Although detox is an effective first step, alone it is rarely adequate for long-term abstinence from alcohol and other drugs. Upon successful completion of detox, many recovering individuals continue on with a period of structured addiction treatment—either in an inpatient/residential or outpatient setting.

Although the timeline for rehab or any formal treatment duration will vary, at some point this phase of recovery will approach an end point. Ongoing recovery efforts, however, are likely and encouraged to continue. This is where diligent aftercare planning becomes important. Substance abuse treatment programs that make lasting recovery a priority will not send program participants on their way without a solid discharge plan and connecting them with quality aftercare programs.

“Aftercare” is a general term used to describe any ongoing or follow-up treatment for substance abuse that occurs after an initial rehab program. No matter the setting, treatment provider, or methods used, the goals of addiction aftercare programs are the same and include:

1). To maintain recovery from substance abuse.
2). To find ways to prevent relapse.
3). To achieve a life filled with rewarding relationships and a sense of purpose.

One reason that continuing treatment is essential in all situations is because longstanding substance abuse can, in some cases, alter the normal functioning of the brain. Some of these changes do not instantly reverse once use ends. In fact, they can last long after substance use has terminated.

The physical impact of addiction is often accompanied by several psychological changes—affecting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that may persist even after the substance is removed from the body. The physiological changes associated with addiction and their potential lasting impacting to both mental and physical health serve to reaffirm the need for long-term treatment.

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7 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Rehab Facility

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Making the decision to seek professional treatment for your substance use disorder can be a very scary experience. You are choosing to invest your time, money and trust in a rehab program with the hope of discovering a new, healthy lifestyle for yourself. This process takes faith, courage and hard work – and if you want to succeed – it also requires research.

Here are seven essential questions you should ask yourself and the facilities when choosing a rehab program.
Is Insurance Accepted? While most rehab programs will accept insurance, there are a few that do not. Your particular coverage plan also may not cover a portion of your stay at a specific facility. If you have your mind set on enrolling at a particular location, check to see if they have financing plans or sliding scale payment options.
Where is the Location? Rehabs in major metropolitan cities or desirable areas such as beachfront locations will typically cost more. If it’s far away from your home, you’ll also need to factor in airfare or other transportation costs. However, you should consider the quality of the facility first and foremost. Just because a rehab is near a beach doesn’t mean that you’ll be tanning or surfing all day.
How Long is the Program? Short rehab programs can last from two weeks to 30 days, while longer programs can run for up to six months. Some facilities can amend individual programs to be longer if needed, while others have a strict timeline for checking out of treatment. Of course, the cost of your program will be determined by the length of your stay.
Quick Tip:
Short rehab programs can last from two weeks to 30 days, while longer programs can run for up to six months.

What Are the Amenities? Some luxury rehabs offer gourmet meals cooked by professional chefs, massage therapists and stunning private facilities. That being said, some people simply can’t afford these perks and others find them unnecessary. You naturally want to be as comfortable as possible during your treatment, so check to see exactly what amenities are included and remember that some programs charge additional fees for certain activities. Be sure to ask about the fine print.
Will I Have a Roommate? Most rehab facilities pair people up with roommates – either in dorm rooms or converted apartments. However, for some people, personal space in rehab is a necessity. There are facilities willing to provide you a “single” room or an apartment for the additional fee, but others believe communal living is part of the recovery process.

Quick Tip: A medically supervised detox is advised in most cases and, depending on the drug of choice, might be essential.

Are There Detox Facilities? It’s not uncommon for patients to arrive at a rehab facility already under the influence of drugs or alcohol. A medically supervised detox is advised in most cases and, depending on the drug, might be essential due to the potentially fatal complications associated with the withdrawal process. If your preferred center doesn’t have detox facilities, it might be best to attend one before transferring.
What Will it Cost? The cost of rehab is an important issue. Low-cost options can charge as little as $7,500 per month, while the most luxurious facilities can run upwards of $120,000 per month. Most fall somewhere in the middle. Talk with the treatment center beforehand and see what they offer in terms of pricing, payment options and potential scholarships.

Posted January 22, 2015 in Alcoholism, Detox, Drug Abuse, Luxury Treatment by McCarton Ackerman
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How Stages of Recovery works with Dual-diagnosis Clients

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At Stages of Recovery we have a large percentage of clients that have both a substance use and mental health issue (dual-diagnosis). As part of Stages of Recovery multidisciplinary clinical staff, clients receive an on-site, real life, face-to-face assessment and regular supervision from our Board Certified Psychiatrist, Dr. Marion Williams. Dr. Williams is unique in her treatment process because she spends an average of 45 minutes to an hour with each client, each time. Her goal as a Psychiatrist is not just prescribe and refill but proved a therapeutic session and maximize her ability to treat the root cause of the mental health situation. It is a true honor to be able to provide this much needed service to our clients. We are absolutely grateful to have her on our team. For more information about the services that Stages of Recovery provides please call us at 806-412-4721 or visit our website at www.stagesofrecovery.net

10 Fears that Addicts May Have When Seeking Treatment

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By Toshia Humphries, M.Ed., M.A.

When entering drug and alcohol rehabilitation, or rehab, addicts often have many fears. In fact, fear is typically the reason for hesitation to seek treatment. As such, if you’re active in addiction and contemplating change but experiencing seemingly overwhelming fear about the possibility, you’re not alone.

We’ve all been there, to some degree.

In fact, there are common fears every recovering individual typically experienced when going from active addiction or dysfunction to recovering in rehabilitation or therapy. As an adult child of an addict who sought recovery through counseling, I can attest to them. And, for the record, I realize they’re the same ones that kept my mother active in her addiction for so long.

So again, you’re not alone. But, to prevent letting those fears rule you, it’s important to be aware not only of the fears but the debunking facts that squash them.

Fears and the Facts

Fear 1. “Rehab will be like a mental hospital”

Fact: Though rehabilitation occurs in a hospital environment, images of scenes from One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest need not apply. However, active addiction is a disease and, as such, it is seen as an illness. Therefore, the idea that you are being treated in a hospital facility for a mental/physical diagnosis is based in fact. But, the fears you may have of being heavily sedated, strapped into a bed or straight jacket and electro-shocked? You can put those to rest.

Fear 2. “I won’t have any friends in there, and I’ll lose all my own.”

Fact: Truth be told, many of the so-called friends you have in active addiction aren’t even friends to themselves, much less you. That may seem like a harsh statement, but if they’re enabling your addiction by providing for, using with or supporting you in it, they are not being true friends. In fact, they likely need help too. And, though you may not have any established friendships within the rehab facility, you will likely make new, healthier connections with people who are on a road to recovery, rather than self-destruction.

Fear 3. “They’ll brainwash me or make me think everything is my fault.”

Fact: Rehabilitation is not about brainwashing individuals. And, for the record, getting sober and joining a recovery community isn’t the same as joining a cult. Though you will probably learn a whole new way of thinking, speaking and being, it will not be an effort to brainwash you or save your soul. Rehabilitation is about saving your life.

As for convincing you that everything is your fault? Well, blame is a deadly habit and though it serves a purpose in active addiction, it doesn’t serve anyone in recovery. As such, you can let that fear go, as well.

Fear 4. “My life won’t improve.”

Fact: Although there are many steps to take in active recovery, the first one is certainly to admit there is a problem. Entering rehab implies you’ve taken that step. From that point forward, your life is already improving.

Fear 5. “I’ll fail.”

Fact: Relapse is a part of recovery. That doesn’t mean you will relapse, nor does it imply you have to. But, if you do, you won’t be seen as a failure. You’ll be seen as an individual who is struggling with the disease of addiction. And, for the record, everyone in recovery who is battling the disease knows to take recovery one day at a time. Why? To prevent getting caught up in the what-ifs of tomorrow. Today, you are entering into rehab. Today, you are successful in your recovery efforts.

Fear 6. “I’ll have to go to church.”

Fact: Though there are faith-based recovery programs, rehabilitation is typically scientific. There may be spiritual aspects included in rehab, but that speaks to the holistic view of treatment for the disease of addiction which includes physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual elements. However, you are not forced to accept any doctrine of faith or attend faith-based gatherings. Again, rehab is about saving your life, not your soul.

Fear 7. “People won’t think I’m cool anymore, and my life will be boring.”

Fact: It may burst your bubble to know this, but active addiction is never cool. More times than not the legend you see as yourself is in your own mind. But, the stories you’ll have of survival and overcoming with regard to recovery will most definitely be cool.

As for your life being boring? No. You will simply start living your life, rather than slowly trying to end it. And, with regard to recovery, your life will only get more exciting because you will finally be able to achieve your true potential, feel your feelings deeply and connect with others, intimately. Recovery doesn’t take you from excitement to boredom. It takes you from numb to alive!

Fear 8. “I’ll lose my identity.”

Fact: Though you will lose what you know to be your identity with regard to that which is related to active addiction, you will not lose yourself. Quite the contrary. In rehab is exactly where you will start to find or rediscover yourself.

Fear 9. “I won’t be able to be myself.”

Fact: Just as the aforementioned fact stated, you will be able to find and begin to be your true self in rehab and recovery, possibly for the first time. And, though you may see only aspects of active addiction as identifiers, there are elements of you—the way you express yourself, books you like, movies you watch, your favorite color, etc.—that are simply you. But, remember, rehab and recovery don’t threaten you. Addiction does. Active addiction steals us from ourselves and those we love. And, as far as rehab is concerned, you can be completely you, as long as you are sober and working on the issues that kept you in active addiction.

Fear 10. “Everything I know will change.”

Fact: Yes. A great deal of what you know will change. That is true. But, with regard to the fear of that fact, it should not be viewed as a negative. When everything you know in active addiction has gotten so bad you are contemplating a change, then change is exactly what you need. Embrace it, and let the winds of change carry you where you need to be.

*Original version first published on www.soberrecovery.com: http://www.soberrecovery.com/addiction/10-fears-that-addicts-may-have-when-seeking-treatment/

3 Ways I Shed My Emotional Baggage

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3 Ways I Shed My Emotional Baggage

By Toshia Humphries

Born to a heroin addict and raised in a family filled with addiction and the issues that result from the family dynamics of the disease, I struggled to survive. Physically, I was well provided for. In fact, I had more than most, materialistically speaking. However, emotionally I was completely neglected and deprived.

What most of the world doesn’t seem to know is that, regardless of monetary capabilities, children need love and acceptance and the sense of belonging and emotional security that comes with those two things. Without unconditional love and emotional support, children don’t grow up. They don’t grow much at all.

Sure. Children will still likely get taller and certainly chronologically older. But, as far as emotional development is concerned, they will be stunted.

This is the very reason children of addicts are eventually referred to as adult children rather than simply adults.

That emotional stunting that creates a phenomena of adult children is caused by a great deal of oppression; an ever-increasing weight of the world, so to speak, pressing down and preventing growth while the overwhelming burden of carrying a heavy heart serves as a ball and chain.

The experience is typically darker than the imagery, and the pain is unbearable.

With regard to my personal experience, there was no one who intervened in an attempt to rescue me from this oppressive state. In fact, since I rotated in and out of dysfunctional roles and often found myself playing the hero (getting good grades, participating in extracurricular activities, going to church, etc.,) no school counselor ever even saw me.

Still, I carried the weight of the world; all the baggage my dysfunctional family had passed down to me.

If I was to survive and thrive, I had to reach a point where I was faced with a choice; check out and take the baggage into the next life or stay put and sort through it. Thankfully, when my rock bottom came, I chose the latter.

There was a process I went through in an effort to shed my emotional baggage, and much like shedding pounds, it was a difficult one, to say the least. As with physical weight gain, if it takes years to gain the emotional baggage, it will take years to shed it, if you do it in a holistically healthy way.

Of course, for me, there was no other way to approach it. I’d already seen the rampant negative results from trying to achieve a quick fix. I knew that an emotional crash-diet was not going to benefit me in the long run. And, quite frankly, I never wanted to reside in the darkness of rock-bottom again.

However, as part of the process, visiting that darkness was the first thing I had to do.

The Process:

Facing the pain. The first thing I had to do was confront the darkness I lived in for so long. I had tried everything to escape from it, even often considering suicide. Yet, it still remained. And avoiding it only seemed to worsen and prolong things.

So, I sought counseling and spent several years dealing with my painful past. Sorting through the baggage with the help of a trained professional was the best and, honestly, most terrifying thing I ever chose to do. I am alive today because of this vital step.

Loving the self. During my counseling sessions, I was learning to love myself. It was obviously a significant part of healing and emotional recovery. And, though I had already taken the most important step toward loving myself by seeking help in the first place, I had a long journey of learning forgiveness, unconditional love and acceptance ahead.

Still, without love for the self, there is no successful recovery from anything.

Reawakening the spirit. The final step was to reawaken my spirit which had been all but destroyed and certainly remained in hiding for fear of being annihilated. The experience of facing my pain and learning to love myself, completely and unconditionally, is what led me to the spirit within me.

Once I rediscovered myself and the spirit within, I began listening to and trusting my intuition, my spirit, and speaking my truth and sharing my story without fear of reprisals. That experience of reawakening is what lifts me today, keeps me from being weighed down or anchored in the past.

The culmination of these three steps leaves me free of the burden of my family’s choices. As a result, today, I walk with a sense of light I only experienced in fleeting, magical moments, as a child. My hope is that, if you have a similar experience with regard to emotional baggage, you too will begin this process and shed the weight of the world and the heaviness that surrounds your heart.

 

*Original version first published on www.soberrecovery.com: http://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/how-to-find-healing-as-an-adult-child-of-an-addict/

 

What a Future in Recovery Looks Like

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By Toshia Humphries, M.Ed., M.A.

When contemplating sobriety and recovery, there are often numerous questions, concerns and fears. These can be overwhelming. Unfortunately, they often prevent individuals from seeking the help needed.

It’s the unknown future in recovery that becomes the potential obstacle for so many in active addiction.

As such, it helps to get information about recovery from those who have been in your shoes and are in recovery now. They know the fear. But, more importantly, they understand the ways fear can destroy you with regard to preventing you from getting sober and entering recovery.

As someone who had my own questions regarding the unknown future in recovery for an adult child of and addict, I can speak to some of the questions and fears; will my life be boring? Will I lose all my friends? What about my identity? Who will I become? What if I fail? Do I have to become religious? Etc.

Thankfully, the fear of the unknown I experienced was not greater than the pain of my rock-bottom experience. As such, I charged forward into unknown territory, regardless.

But, when I did so, I found that though my questions were valid, my fears were my dysfunction’s defense mechanism; my ego’s last-ditch effort to remain in control and keep me active in my dysfunction.

Recovery doesn’t steal your friends. It sheds light on the truth about the individuals you’ve been labeling “friends.” It helps you learn what friendship and caring looks like, and assists you in seeking real community with true friends; the kind who won’t enable you. More importantly, recovery gives you the opportunity to become a friend to yourself—your best friend, rather than your own worst enemy.

Being in recovery isn’t boring, unless you are. And, for the record, that’s something you have control over too. It’s up to you to find new ways to have and be fun without drugs and alcohol. The recovery community you plug into will certainly help with that endeavor.

As for your identity, recovery doesn’t destroy who you are. However, it may feel that way, as you will be grieving not only your drug of choice but the life and identity you knew and adhered to in active addiction. But, in truth, recovery gives your original identity—who you were meant to be—and potential back to you. It just may take a while for you to recognize yourself, as you’ve likely been missing for some time.

For the record, the latter will be true of family members as well. It will take some time for them to see you as you and not the addiction they’ve identified you with for so long.

And, lastly, recovery doesn’t force you into religion. Although spirituality is a vital part of recovery, it has nothing to do with organized religion. And, with regard to the spiritual paths available for you to choose, the options are limitless and can easily be customized by and for you.

The most important thing to remember when contemplating your future in recovery is that no matter how unknown and, therefore, potentially frightening a life in recovery may be, it certainly can’t be worse than what you already know of a life in active addiction. Take the leap.

*Original version posted on www.soberrecovery.com: http://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/5-things-recovery-doesn-t-actually-do/

5 Things to Strive For in Recovery Now That You’re Sober

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By Toshia Humphries, M.Ed., M.A.

Now that you’re sober, the real work can begin.

That may seem like an insulting statement for those who have struggled through detox to get to the other side of withdrawal. But, as with any truth that’s difficult but necessary to hear, it may be a shock to the system to read words that imply your likely painful experience in detox is merely the tip of the iceberg. Still, it’s true.

Your journey is just beginning.

Sobriety and recovery are two completely different things. In fact, though most active addicts tend to assume that being sober would be enough, that’s merely the first step. And, without recovery, it’s not only sobriety that is threatened. Sanity eventually goes out the window too and serenity is not a possibility.

That’s exactly why it is necessary for individuals who have entered a state of sobriety through detox or other means to seek real recovery. Moreover, it’s important to strive for a handful of things in the recovery process to keep sanity intact and serenity in reach.

Sobriety – Getting sober is something you’ve already achieved. You must take a moment to celebrate that victory. However, finding new ways to celebrate most anything will require that you do the work to stay sober.

Typically, in recovery, individuals require support to maintain sobriety. It isn’t enough to merely detox and move along with life. Most newly sober individuals seek sober communities, recovery groups and sober living situations. Any or all of the three are great ways to maintain sobriety, especially when new to recovery.

Sanity – A great deal of dual diagnosis occurs with active addiction. As such, once you are sober, it is necessary to treat or continue managing any dual diagnosis issues. Depression, anxiety and other mood and personality disorders can quickly hinder your sobriety and prevent recovery.

As such, it is necessary to plug yourself into therapy and begin facing any unresolved emotional, psychological and/or spiritual issues. Regardless of the existence of a diagnosis, active addiction and the experiences that accompany it are enough to require emotional recovery.  Additionally, it is vital to continue managing any diagnoses requiring medical therapies through the appropriate means suggested by your healthcare provider.

Self-Love – In order to truly solidify recovery, one must learn to love oneself, unconditionally. The latter is the difficult part.

It’s seemingly quite easy to love ourselves when we are achieving our goals and accomplishing our dreams. But what if we’ve been wrapped up in an active addiction for so long we let our dreams and goals pass us by? Then it might not be so easy to love ourselves. More importantly, we might not find it easy to forgive ourselves.

That’s where the self-love stage of successful recovery begins; forgiveness. We must forgive ourselves and embrace who we were, are and that which we now strive to become.

Spirituality – A vital piece of successful recovery is spirituality. It is key to a delicate balance that offers us the ultimate goal of inner peace. And, as such, it is necessary to find ways to regain a sense of spirituality after achieving sobriety.

Spirituality is not the same as religion. As such, church or organized religious beliefs are not necessary here. But striving for spirituality by finding a higher power and seeking the higher self is.

Serenity – Once the aforementioned stages are achieved and remain a part of daily existence, serenity, or a newfound sense of inner peace, is not only a possibility. It is guaranteed.

And, for the record, once serenity is accomplished, relapse in thinking or behavior is no longer necessary. You simply evolve.

Remember, you’ve taken the first and most vital step. Now, let your journey begin.

*Original version first published on www.soberrecovery.comhttp://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/the-5-s-s-that-launch-your-recovery-journey/

 

3 Ways to Prevent Fear from Kicking In

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By Toshia Humphries

Fear can quickly become the enemy of successful recovery. In fact, it potentially threatens any form of personal growth. But, fear itself, is merely an emotion we all experience from time to time. Therefore, the power we give it is a choice.

Additionally, most everyone fears change. And, with regard to active addiction, that particular reality is quite concerning and significant. Conversely, however, fear can also be a great motivator, depending on the perspective.

As such, it is important for active addicts contemplating treatment as well as those individuals already on the path of recovery to keep their fear in check, so to speak. Learning how to prevent fear from kicking in and finding ways to reign it in when fear becomes overwhelming can become unexpected survival techniques and keys to successful recovery.

Below are three ways to prevent fear from kicking in and taking over:

Be mindful. When we focus on the past, we live in yesterday. If we concentrate on only the future, we are living in tomorrow. Either leaves us lacking the ability to live in the only moment we truly have; the present. Staying in the present moment and gently reminding ourselves to redirect our thoughts to the here-and-now can ease our fears over consequences of the past and of anything unknown in the future.

Stay well-grounded. Fear that becomes overwhelming and out of control is typically irrational fear. Those who experience anxiety or panic attacks are aware of this reality. As such, the implications for those who encounter both as a result of active addiction are great.

Rational thought is not something that accompanies active addiction, as such, fear can be a motivator here. But, for the record, it is not a place to get stuck. Quite the contrary. Fear is not a place anyone wants to live. As such, moving past contemplation into action with regard to seeking help for active addiction is one sure way to attempt to move from fear into the much more hospitable environment of hope.

For those in recovery, it is important to find ways to stay well-grounded. Finding a “safe person” to call or talk to when irrational fears creep in, plugging in to recovery groups, acquiring a sponsor, therapist, life coach, spiritual counselor, etc., can all be active steps toward staying well-grounded and accountable.

Open up. Talking and expressing personal feelings, thoughts and experiences is a necessary, yet sometimes difficult, practice for preventing and calming fear. Although the vulnerability involved often creates a bit of anxiety, finding emotionally safe ways to express and safe people to open up to will ease the experience.

Recovery groups are a generally a great place to begin the practice of honest, open communication. Of course, different rules apply for every group, so be sure to respect those which apply to communication within or directed to the group.

As with anything else, practice makes perfect. The more you communicate, the easier it gets. Writing letters (unsent or otherwise) is one way to start opening up without the fear of judgment. But, remember, the point is to grow and continue to gain new life skills, including but not limited to honest, open communication. As such, don’t get stuck in the safety zone of unsent letter-writing. Find your voice, and let it be heard.

Regardless of whether you’re an active addict considering change or an individual in recovery grappling with the reality of a sober life, these tips are important to keep in mind. Nothing gets better in active addiction. As such and with regard to that reality, it’s also vital to keep Franklin Delano Roosevelt’s words in mind; “the only thing you have to fear is fear, itself.” With regard to active recovery, just remember this; the unknown is certainly a better alternative to that which you’ve known, and what becomes of it is solely up to you.

*Original version first published on www.soberrecovery.com: http://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/3-ways-to-kick-fear-in-the-butt/

 

4 Tips for Following Through on the New Year’s Resolution to Get Sober

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By Toshia Humphries

It’s a new year. And, as such, many people have made some important resolutions to begin changing their lives for the better. Vows to eat healthy, exercise more and reestablish connections with friends or estranged family members are just a handful of examples.

Still, some resolutions are life and death matters. Getting sober is certainly one of those. Seeking treatment and entering into a lifelong recovery process, however, is not always the wording or perspective used when making that resolution.

Yet, as we know, getting clean is just the first step on a journey which requires commitment and a lot of work and support to sustain.

Of course, other resolutions—like eating better, working out and reestablishing relationships—takes work too. But, with regard to getting sober and staying sober, the work is a bit more involved and a lot more challenging.

What could be more challenging than turning down sweets or fried foods? Facing yourself and all the pain you’ve been suppressing, avoiding and attempting to numb throughout your active addiction.

The thought of that makes going to the gym every day look pretty easy, right? Right.

But without emotional, psychological and spiritual health, physical health is pointless. And, with regard to active addiction, all of the above are completely compromised.

As such, it is important to know what steps to take to follow through on the New Year’s resolution to get sober. More importantly, it’s vital to learn tips for maintaining that sobriety through active recovery.

Seek Treatment. Of course, the first step to getting sober is to admit you need to. Kudos for recognizing there is, indeed, a problem.

However, getting sober is not as easy as putting down the drugs or alcohol. In fact, to do only that is potentially deadly, as alcohol withdrawals can be fatal. Additionally, to stop drinking without treatment or recovery is referred to as “white-knuckle sobriety,” and it is a setup for a relapse which spirals one further down past the initial rock bottom.

As such, it is vital to seek treatment. There are residential, rehabilitation and outpatient treatment facilities available. Find what best suits your personal and financial needs.

Find Community. Once you have entered treatment, you are considered a recovering addict/alcoholic. As such, you will meet many others while you are in treatment who are recovering as well. This creates a wonderful support network of people who understand your struggle and can easily relate.

The challenge begins when you leave treatment and all those individuals, supportive staff members and the safety of the facility behind.

As such, it is necessary to plug yourself into a recovery community as soon as possible. You can begin asking for information on how and where to access sober living, recovery and/or collegiate recovery communities while in treatment. Otherwise, you can easily find this information online.

If you live in a rural community and have limited or no access to these communities, it may be necessary to simply seek the support of a sponsor, counselor, church community or spiritual group or commute to the nearest recovery group, if possible.

Get Support. When you are plugged into a recovery community, it feels like enough. But, for the record, it isn’t. Though you are surrounded by people who understand and have likely been in your shoes or are currently going through it who can help you work the program, they are not capable of being your personal therapist. This is especially true with regard to dual diagnosis.

For that reason, it is best to seek a counselor or psychologist, along with a sponsor and/or recovery coach, when in recovery. Finding a professional who can help you sort out any emotional/psychological issues resulting from your time in active addiction, as well as those that spurred or perpetuated it, is vital to preventing relapse.

Do the Work. The process of recovery is not an easy one. It is a lifelong journey of personal growth, healing, empowerment and enlightenment. And, because it requires a lifetime commitment, the work never ends.

However, the workload does decrease. Once the deep wounds are surfaced, the grieving begins and (of course) and dual diagnoses are addressed and treated, the work becomes about maintenance.

Of course, that doesn’t mean things get easy. Conversely, there are no easy routes in recovery. But, if you do the work—the hard, grueling and scary work—in the beginning, the journey becomes less daunting, and the gifts that result becomes clear and accessible.

The resolution to get sober is an admirable one. But, just to state it as a desire or a promise to yourself is not enough. Active addicts break promises to themselves and others every single day. It’s a criteria for diagnosis.

As such, make this resolution stick, so you can be around to make another one on the last day of this year.

5 Ways You Can Love Yourself Today

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By Toshia Humphries, M.Ed., M.A.

Contrary to what some believe, self-love does not equate to selfishness. In fact, learning to love oneself often prevents it. After all, to fully love others, one must first love oneself.

With regard to active addiction, love of self is typically completely lacking. The reasons vary, but the reality is the same and it is one of chronic self-sabotage. In other words, active addiction is a means of self-destruction, not an exhibition of self-love.

For these individuals, making a decision to seek help is the first step toward self-preservation and self-love. And, for the record, since active addiction is the acute situation, that particular step is most vital. It must be taken before any other efforts toward self-care or love of self can be employed.

That said, once treatment for active addiction is sought, the biggest and hardest step has been taken. As such, those in active recovery have already moved from a place of self-destruction to one of self-care. And, with that in mind, congratulations and a moment to reflect on that uplifting reality are in order.

But, as we know, the journey doesn’t end there.

For that reason, it is important to find ways to continue to practice self-love throughout recovery. Love of self is vital to relapse prevention and key to successful relationships, as well as holistic wellness. And, as with recovery, the practice of self-love is one we can employ one day at a time.

Let the first day be today by employing these five ways to love yourself:

Get rest and relaxation. Sleep is necessary for holistic health. Physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual health rely on rest and plenty of it. Relaxation is also key to overall wellness. As such, making sure you get a good night’s rest (ideally, 8 hours) or find time to nap in an effort to compensate for any sleep lost due to situations out of your control is first on the to-do list. Finding ways to relax—taking a hot bath, going for a walk, yoga and meditation, etc.—throughout the day needs to accompany this step, as relaxation leads to a restful mind and body.

Take time for mental health. Whether you can afford to take the day completely off—no school, no work, no appointments of any kind—and enjoy a mental health day, or simply find an hour to devote to doing nothing, it is necessary to take time to let your mind unwind. Zoning out to music, watching a beloved movie, reading a book, etc., are all great options for “vegging out” and giving yourself a break from the stressors of everyday life.

Get moving. Exercise gets the blood flowing, stagnate energy moving and endorphins kicking in. All of the above are vital to overall wellness. It keeps you physically healthy and typically makes you feel better about yourself, all while relieving stress and promoting relaxation. Additionally, exercise is prevents and effectively helps reduce depression and provides a great distraction when and if cravings become an issue.

However, as with anything else, too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Distraction is a temporary fix, not a permanent solution. As such, remember; the purpose of exercising is to maintain holistic health as a practice of self-love, not self-destruction. If you’re reasoning is based on self-loathing or insecurities, be sure to address this with a helping professional. Exercise bulimia is a dangerous reality and should not be taken lightly.

Get moving, but don’t get a substitute addiction.

Feed your body and mind. Food is necessary for survival. Healthy food is vital for quality of life. Making the time to prepare or acquire a healthy meal, at least three times a day, with healthy snacks throughout the day improves if not ensures physical and mental health.

Food for thought is also necessary, especially with regard to successful recovery. Employing daily affirmations, positive quotes and so on at the start or end of the day is a great way to feed the mind and nurture the self.

Get quiet. Quiet time is something we needed as children, and that does not change when we become adults. Getting quiet means turning off all background noise—no tv, radio, computer, video games. Nothing. Complete silence. Whether you choose to get quiet via the practice of meditation at a local yoga studio or decide to do so by simply sitting in the silence of your own home, finding ways to get quiet offers opportunities to sit with, face and lovingly embrace yourself.

These five steps don’t require much extra effort. Sleeping and eating is something we should already be doing, so employing the proper amount and method should be simple enough. However, if there is resistance to any of the above, that is not an abnormal experience. If self-love came naturally to us, addiction would have never been an issue.

The truth is self-love is not easy for the majority of individuals, mainly because it is not something we are taught. It’s something we generally have to teach ourselves. And, more to the point, it requires us to be our own best parent—setting boundaries and instilling norms and expectations we don’t always initially like. But, as with our need to access treatment and get recovery, the need to further our journey of self-love is a reality and one we will find gets easier and more fulfilling as we move along.

 

*Original version first published on soberrecovery.com: http://www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/5-ways-you-can-start-loving-yourself-today/